Bullying
its effects on children and how you can intervene
Introduction: What is bullying?
Bullying is an act of cruelty, physical or emotional, that happens when someone hurts or humiliates another person.
Bullying starts when a person tries to hurt someone else’s sense of self-worth. It can be physical or emotional abuse. Bullying comes in different forms and has the potential to affect the victim’s social and emotional well-being. The most common type of bullying is verbal bullying, which includes cyber-bullying.
Bullying can happen anywhere and at any time, but it often happens to children at school. Some children are bullied by their peers all year round, while other children are bullied only once or twice a year by a peer who simply doesn’t like them for one reason or another.
Bullying is the use of force, threat or coercion to abuse, intimidate or aggressively dominate others. The behaviour is usually repeated and habitual. A prerequisite is the perception, by the bully or others, of a social or physical power imbalance.
Bullying is aggressive action towards someone who is less powerful. Or perceived as less powerful by the bully.
It is important to remember that those who resort to such bullying are people who feel strong emotions such as anger, humiliation and shame and use them to hurt someone else, hoping that this will make them feel better about themselves.
Bullying is a serious problem that needs to be tackled. Bullying is defined as any behaviour that is intended to cause pain or suffering to another individual. Bullies can use their power, social status and other skills to control and manipulate others.
In school, most experiences of bullying take place in the small group of a class. In fact, 44% of students say they have been bullied by their classmates. As for adults, many incidents of bullying take place in the workplace with the intention of affecting someone’s performance at work or making their job more difficult.
In the workplace, where people should be working together towards a common goal, it is very important to foster a sense of unity and community to prevent tensions from escalating into something more serious, such as bullying. Schools can reduce bullying by giving students more opportunities to succeed and building healthy relationships between students.
How does bullying affect a person’s brain?
Bullying is unwarranted verbal, physical or social aggression towards someone who cannot defend themselves. Bullying can have numerous negative effects on the brain activity, mood and well-being of the people involved.
The effects of bullying are wide-ranging and can include everything from social difficulties to mental health problems. One study found that children who have been bullied are at greater risk of developing depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder and suicidal thoughts. Other studies have found that these children may experience a drop in self-esteem and an increased risk of developing a psychiatric disorder.
It is important to note that both the perpetrator and the victim are negatively affected by these events. Victims tend to have a lower quality of life because they constantly feel helpless or depressed when they are bullied at school or in their community. This could also affect how much they want to go to school. or participate in their community, which can lower the quality of life at school or in the community. Perpetrators are also affected by the effects of bullying as they will be perceived as less human or trustworthy and may receive negative feedback from others. They may also develop self-esteem issues as they feel humiliated and ashamed of what happened, which could lead to demotivation or withdrawal from social activities.
Research shows that there is a clear link between the negative effects of bullying and the bully’s brain.
Negative effects can be seen through brain scans. A study by researchers at Mexico City University found that people who bully others have an enlarged amygdala – a part of the brain that regulates emotions such as anger or anxiety – compared to non-bullies.
Students were given an implicit association test that measured how quickly they associated positive or negative words with themselves and others. They also had their brains scanned using magnetic resonance imaging (MRI). “People who scored higher in implicit self-esteem also showed more activity in the anterior cingulate cortex, a region of the brain associated with emotional responses,” one researcher said. “This suggests that these individuals may be more likely to monitor themselves for signs of distress.” “Implicit self-esteem is associated with negative neural responses in the anterior cingulate cortex,” Human Brain Mapping, July 2018. That is, people with high self-esteem are more likely to associate positive words with themselves and others (not surprisingly) and have better self-monitoring and emotional self-control.
The negative effects of bullying are most prominent in adolescence, where they can lead to low self-esteem and depression.
Who is at risk of being a victim of bullying?
According to a report by the National Center for Education Statistics, in both 2011 and 2012, about one in four students experienced bullying. In the wider context, 56% of children have been bullied at least once in their lives.
According to a study by the National Crime Prevention Council, there are many factors that increase the risk of being bullied. The NCPC states that children aged 5-15 are usually at greater risk because they have not yet developed a strong enough ability to protect themselves from a bully.
Violence against children is not a new form of abuse, but the prevalence is increasing. In a survey of about 20,000 children in grades 5-12 in the United States, the number who were sexually harassed at school doubled from 10% in 1991 to 20% in 2016. Meanwhile, the number who were physically assaulted at school increased from 7% in 1994 to 16% in 2014.
Children most at risk of being harassed or abused typically come from low-income neighborhoods. It’s also more likely to happen to children whose parents are in an unstable environment, whether divorced, mentally ill or addicted to drugs. Most often bullying takes place in public places – on the street or at school for example.
It is important to teach our children to be aware of their surroundings and to notice when someone might try to take advantage of them. It is equally important to teach them to identify when a colleague or friend of theirs is being bullied or abused, so that they can alert adults and appropriate action can be taken. The sad reality is that many such incidents go unreported because the victim is either too traumatised to talk about it, ashamed of what happened or afraid of the consequences.
The truth is that people of all ages, genders, religions, ethnicities, abilities or disabilities can be harassed or assaulted. The most important thing we can do is talk openly about this topic to educate the next generation and encourage them to speak up if they experience something like this, so we can help them heal and stop the cycle of abuse.
How do I know when my child is being bullied?
As a parent, the best way to help your child is to learn to recognise the signs that they are being bullied.
Parents play a crucial role in combating bullying. They need to watch out for signs of bullying and harassment. If they suspect something suspicious is going on and their child might be being victimised, they can talk to their child and find out more about the problem from them. They can also ask their child how they are doing at school, what they do every day and if there are other people bullying or harassing them. There are some apps that help parents monitor their children’s social networking profiles as well as messages and calls on their phone.
It is important for parents to know if their child is being bullied so they can take appropriate action to help stop the bullying behaviour.
If you have a child who seems more withdrawn than usual, sad or hesitant to go to school, you should consider that it could be because of bullying. Also investigate whether that child has unexplained injuries or seems tired for no apparent reason.
If you suspect that your child’s teacher might not know about a bully in their class, it may be helpful to talk to that teacher directly about the situation. If there is no improvement in the bully after that action, talk to other teachers and see if they have any solutions. This conversation may be enough for the child’s teacher to do something about the situation.
It’s important to know the signs of child abuse. That way, you can quickly make the decision to intervene.
The most common symptoms are those of bullying:
- Unexplained injuries: wounds, bruises, cuts
- Withdrawn or aggressive behaviour
- Withdrawal from activities
- Difficulty concentrating or other behavioural problems
- The child frequently “loses” various objects, especially valuables, e.g. expensive electronics, phones and so on.
What can parents do to combat this epidemic?
Childhood is a time that should be full of joy, laughter and happiness. There should be no reason for your child to feel fear or worry about what will happen when they go out into the world. It’s the responsibility of parents to make sure they are doing their duty to their children and protecting them from anything that might harm them.
There are many signs that can indicate child abuse. Parents should watch out for sudden changes in their child’s behaviour, frequent injuries, nightmares or bedwetting, reluctance to go home after school or change in appetite.
If parents notice any of these warning signs, they should talk to their child and encourage them to tell them the truth about what has happened. If this doesn’t work, they may need to contact the authorities who may investigate further.
Parents should also report any suspicions of abuse to the school and check with teachers to see if they have noticed any change in behaviour themselves.

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